There’s a time for everything, right? And lately, I think I’ve entered my “first date enthusiast, second date ghost” era. I’m here for the spark, the fresh banter, and the thrill of meeting someone new… but beyond that? Meh. Maybe it’s a phase, maybe it’s wisdom (LOL), but nothing really excites me past the first meeting lately.
Now don’t get me wrong — I love dating. It’s like people-watching with higher stakes. I get to meet folks outside my usual bubble and come home appreciating my own life even more. But here’s the thing: I’ve never dated anyone from the hospitality industry — and I don’t plan to. I’ll gladly take a tech bro, insurance analyst, banker, engineer (hot), NGO founder… anyone who can teach me something new. New knowledge is sexy. One time I dated someone deep inside the F1 world. Anytime there’s F1 gossip, I’d text him and get a reply like, “hoax” or “yes, next month” — like a walking spoiler alert. It was thrilling. Or the guy from Texas who just did things — sent flowers without big promises. No overthinking. Just action. Ugh. 10/10.
Contrast that with the guy who once snapped at me, “You’re selfish. You only want to meet on your schedule. I’m not from here, you know — I put in effort.” got me in silence. I was stunned. I imagined being in his shoes — like, if I were in Italy and some guy gave me an obscure spot and expected me to figure it all out… fair point.
Of course, I shared the story with my girls. Cue hot takes:
- “You’re the lady — he should make the effort!” (We love a good gender card.)
- “You’re the one being asked out. It’s your right to set the time and place!” (Facts.)
- “If he can’t show up, then you know where he stands.” (PREACH.)
Moral of the story: friends will always hype you up. That’s what friends are for, right!
That’s also why you don’t always go to them for real answers. But that said, I wasn’t even seeking advice. I just wanted to rant and laugh and keep my instincts sharp.
So, what would you do if you were me?